In an interview and any other type of meeting, there are always two conversations going on, one is verbal and the other is nonverbal, that is to say communication without words. That is what body language is all about, that is why it’s referred to as a language, as it is also a way of communicating. As carefully as you select your words, because once spoken, they cannot be retracted, in a similar and deliberate fashion, you should think about your body language and what it is communicating about you.
Eye Contact
It’s for a very good reason why it is said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, that’s because your eyes say a lot about you and what you are thinking, they can display boredom, disbelief, shock, laziness or alertness, they can inspire fear or confidence. It’s important to look your interviewer in the eye directly, but not for too long, the point is not to challenge or stare down the interviewer but to be engaged, genuine and open. Shifty eye movements or looking down at a desk, your hands or away from the interviewer can communicate, nervousness, dishonesty or a lack of confidence amongst other things.
No leaning or slouching
Sit upright, do not slouch or lean in your chair or on the desk. Slouching sends the signal that you are lazy and don’t care about your appearance. A prospective employer might relate this to your attitude about the job. You want to be alert, but not too stiff, so you appear uncomfortable. Do not lean too much towards the interviewer or too far away. You want to seem engaged and excited about working for the company, but confident and relaxed in your own space.
Manage your hands
Your hands can have a mind of their own. They fidget, doodle, touch your hair or your face. In an effort to manage them you may be tempted to fold your arms, which makes you seem unapproachable, place them behind your back or in your pockets. These are all the wrong things to do, just relax and leave your hands at your side or in your lap if you’re sitting.
Handshakes
Handshakes are usually a part of the interviewing process, for saying hello and for introductions. It should be firm but not painful. Although you may be nervous keep your hands open and not balled up to limit sweating.
Smile
Be pleasant, cordial and polite to everyone you meet, security guards and secretaries included. It’s not just something you turn on for the interviewers. You should smile and listen attentively throughout the interview. Every organization is looking for a team player. Take your time in thinking about your responses so that you can speak with confidence. You should appear confident, but likeable, not over confident and smug.